I encounter so many people who struggle with their finances because they have a spouse that doesn’t want to participate. They do not like to talk about money and refuse to believe that they need a budget. Financial matters can become really tricky when you feel like you cannot get on the same page as your spouse. It can almost seem impossible.
I am here to tell you, fear not! I have gotten so many questions regarding the subject of a non-participating spouse so I have compiled my thoughts into an eBook. In this quick and easy read, there are explanations for why your spouse is reluctant to participate when it comes to money and some things that you can do to combat this without actually being combative. While your spouse may never be as enthusiastic as you on the topic of finances, it is possible to bring it to their attention and find a way to work together to accomplish your plans, hopes and dreams.
You can get access to Successfully Manage Money With Non-Participating Spouse HERE for the low price of $2.99.
It’s time for the latest episode of the Monday Money Tip Podcast! This week, we are on Episode 17 of our podcast and we have important tips for you regarding Marriage and Money. We will be talking more about how to handle your finances when you have a non-participating spouse. In addition, we have some other information about the costs of raising a child.
It’s our goal at the end of each episode that you gain hope and encouragement in your financial journey, you’re equipped to take a next step, and that you’ve had FUN with us!
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About the episode:
Joe shares staggering statistics about the cost of raising a child to age 18.
- Hear a success story about a couple who was ready to throw in the towel but remained faithful during their process.
- Megan has some quiet ways that you can win with your money even with a non-participating spouse.
- Get some tips from Joe about good ways that you can talk to your spouse about your hopes and dreams.
Quote of the Day:
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” – Philippians 4:13
There was a time in my life that I was completely clueless about money. My life was a financial mess. I had massive amounts of credit card debt, huge student loan balances and to top it off, I decided that I needed to purchase a brand new car and home. I was on a downward spiral, and I needed to make some drastic changes, and fast.
Then, Jenn and I decided to prepare (and follow!) a budget. It sounds so incredibly simple but it changed our financial future. One hundred eighty-two months ago, my family prepared our first ever budget and have followed one every month since.
I know that many people have felt the same way that I initially did about my finances. I know because I asked. Here is what people told us about budgeting:
- 37.5% said their budgets do not work because they do not know how to budget effectively.
- 27.5% of people said budgeting was “too frustrating and emotional” so they just gave up.
- 25.8% felt like they did not make enough money so there was no point in creating a budget.
- 27.5% said there “just was not enough time in the day” so they gave up.
- 18.3% of people said they could not budget because their spouse would not participate.
Can you identify with any of this? If so, I’m excited to tell you that I have a solution! I know that many of you need help with budgeting so I have taken some time and created the I Was Broke. Now I’m Not. Budget Challenge. This 40-day challenge will equip you with everything you need to finally master your money.
- When does the challenge begin? It will kick off with a LIVE two-hour, online equipping event on Tuesday, August 21st.
- How does it work? You will receive special teaching EVERY DAY of the challenge! The first 10 days will focus on preparing your actual monthly budget for September. The final 30 days will help you succeed with your budget throughout the month.
- Can I get real help from the IWBNIN team? Absolutely! There will be a live call once per week on Thursday at 8PM EST where your questions will be answered by Joe or a member of the IWBNIN team.
- Do I have to show up to the live events or will they be available on-demand? We understand that you have a busy life! To help accommodate you, we will record all live events and make them available to all 40-Day Budget Challenge Participants!
If you have had enough and you are ready to take control of your money, reduce financial stress, and start making progress toward your plans, hopes and dreams, join me on the 40-Day Challenge. Do not miss this opportunity! REGISTER HERE!
There are tons of excuses for why you should not budget. It is hard, it can be time consuming, and you might not feel like you make enough to budget. I get it. But if you have been believing any of these excuses and use it as a reason why you cannot budget, you are believing a lie! I am not going to lie to you, budgeting can be challenging. If it were easy, people would not feel so intimidated by it.
Ultimately, budgeting or not budgeting is a choice. There is not a situation that prevents you from completing a budget. You either choose that you are going to win with your money or you choose to let your money run you. I know which option I am choosing. A budget allowed me to do so much more than I ever thought possible in terms of my finances. A budget set me free.
- A budget allows me to know where every single dollar is going BEFORE I am ever paid.
- A budget provides me choices – because I plan it before I receive it.
- A budget allows my bride and I to have constructive conversations every single month about our plans, hopes and dreams.
- A budget allowed me to pay off all of my non-house debt in just 14 months.
- A budget allowed me to pay off my house in 10 years and 1 month.
- A budget allowed me to send my daughter off to college without incurring any student loans, fulfilling a dream of mine.
You can come up with as many reasons as you would like to not budget. But, there are so many more reasons that you need one! It will set you free and allow you to do more than you ever thought possible, just as it did for me.
Try some of these practical ways to make a budget work well for you:
- Use a budget tool – Budget tools will do the math for you. This keeps you focused on the financial decisions at hand instead of facing a terrible math quiz. You can try our FREE BUDGET TOOLS HERE and they will do all the work for you!
- Build an emergency fund equal to a full month of EXPENSES – Notice I said expenses, not a full month of your income. Once you have saved enough for an entire month of expenses, you can ignore multiple paychecks and use the Monthly Budgeting Tool instead. And, you will rid yourself of a level of stress that you may not have even known you had!
- Be realistic – If you are just beginning to prepare a monthly budget, it is important to be realistic about your expenses. Do not tell yourself that you will spend $3.45 on groceries in the next month. That is not possible and you will fail if you structure your budget this way. If you have a household of kids that are involved in 62 after-school activities, do not put $0 in your dining out budget. Go through your debit/credit card history and see what your spending habits are. Once you have determined what your history is, you can trim to what is reasonable.
Remember, no matter how daunting of a task you think budgeting is, it is going to beat not budgeting 10 out of 10 times. Do it. You need it.
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Are you struggling with your budget? Are you ready to take control and finally start winning with your money? If so, join our first ever I Was Broke. Now I’m Not. 40 Day Budget Challenge. During this challenge we will help you create a budget and give helpful and practical tips every single day to make sure that you follow through until the end of the month. Our launch date is Tuesday, August 21st and you can REGISTER HERE. Don’t miss out!
Most couples do not agree on how the finances should be handled. One might be a saver and the other is a spender. One might hate to budget and refuses to use one and the other is a planner and wants to use a budget. How do you work together when one spouse refuses to participate? This is one of the most common things I get asked!
The first thing I should point out is that it is definitely possible to keep your finances on track even if you have a less than willing spouse. Your spouse WILL work with you on your finances.
If you have been believing otherwise, you are believing a money lie!
The good news is, I do have some tips for getting your spouse on board and more willing to participate in money decisions. The bad news is, there is one single thing that is going to work perfectly in every situation. Every couple and every person is different. That does not mean you should not try some (or all) of my tricks out!
The first step is to find out why your spouse is not currently interested. Ask some questions!
- Why do they say they are not interested?
- What are their “money wounds” – the things that have happened in their financial past? Understanding their past can be very helpful toward fixing the future. Did they grow up in utter poverty? Or maybe with excess wealth? Have they experienced bankruptcy? Maybe their parents had a very dysfunctional relationship regarding their finances.
Once you have figured out why your spouse is reluctant to navigate financial matters with you, take some steps to get them more involved.
- Write down your plans, hopes, and dreams and share them with your spouse.
- Ask your spouse to take some time to write down their plans, hopes, and dreams and share them with you.
- Write down the cost of each one and ask the question of your spouse: “If we keep going the same financial direction, will we be able to fund these dreams?”.
It is probably also a good idea to mention a couple things you definitely should NOT do during this time.
- Badger, yell, or scream at your spouse.
- Issue “Do this … or else!” commandments.
- Demean your spouse.
- Make this a four-hour long discussion.
It can be frustrating trying to make finances work with a non-participating spouse. However, do not be discouraged! It is POSSIBLE and you CAN do it!
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Need more on working efficiently with your non-participating spouse? Check out our eBook HERE with more practical ways to navigate this situation.